There are joys and challenges to life with two small cherubs in the house. Everyone tells me that the jump from 1 to 2 is huge and at times tricky. There are moments every day when it feels overwhelming and then moments when I stop and look at them and feel joyful.
The hardest parts of the day are of course first thing in the morning and last thing before their bedtime. In the morning, no matter what time, whoever wakes up first invariably wakes the other up! This means that I have two little people needing me instantaneously. It is great joy to me when only one wakes at a time.
Eva is of course desperate for breakfast on the days when Hugo is screaming for a feed but remarkably can wait on other days! As Hugo grows and can wait a short while from waking to eating I should be able to get Eva all set up before feeding him.
In the evening when we are all tired patience is less and little things become a battle. Bathtime is tricky right now. Eva loves to have Hugo in the bath with her but doesn’t like being asked not to splash/throw toys/steal facewashers. When Hugo gets out first Eva is desperate to get out at the same time and lie down with him. Seeing as Hugo is usually screaming at this point Eva often likes to join him I guess in order to receive the same attention.
Most nights we now just bath them separately for convenience but that’s tricky depending on what feeding routine Hugo is having that day. We realise that this will all sort itself out and that “this too shall pass”. Soon enough they’ll be splashing together so much that there will be more water out than in the bath.
Hugo and Mummy have become a fan of the dummy in those moments where he is just unsettled or even beside himself. He really enjoys sucking and hasn’t found his hands yet. Even just a few minutes to settle him seems to help. This helps towards making me feel less frazzled and often gives me a moment to set Eva up with something before attending to Hugo. It also seems to help him when he is full after a feed and we can’t get any more burps out. The sucking definitely settles him.
How different the life of a subsequent child is when the attention received isn’t instant and always has to be shared.
Luckily Hugo and Eva adore each other. Eva’s demands for cuddles and kisses have slowed down since he came home but it’s still a daily request. Luckily she is less fascinated with him during sleep now so there is less breaking into the room to “pat” (ie thud) him.
I was very apprehensive about getting to and from the car with two small people at the start. I find that I have Hugo in the wrap and Eva wearing the ladybird backpack which seems to give me enough control to feel safe. We have settled into a car routine and Eva seems to be helpful at getting in and out safely.
The extra time that is takes to get out of the house with a little person is quite amazing. Not to mention the extra packing for an outing. Luckily for me I don’t fuss much about getting myself ready or I’d have to get up 30mins earlier which just isn’t happening right now.
Overall our weekday routine is certainly at a slower pace with two. Andrew is taking the car to work most days at my encouragement so this puts a helpful restriction on outings. It is nice to use the pram or just play at home.
We are very proud of Eva for whom the introduction of Hugo has been the biggest change. The axis of her world has shifted and most days she copes very well with that. We are both trying to be intentional in giving her one-on-one time which is hopefully helping her ease into the transition to big sister.